In December 2003, I called my grandfather Karl to tell him: "Opa, I'll be home for Christmas soon and when I'm there, we'll make a movie with you as the star." On December 19, 2003 my beloved grandfather passed away before I could get home. And I don't have a single video memory of him which makes me incredibly sad to this day.
I resolved to do it differently with my grandmother Maria. My husband and I took the time to interview her on video twice about her life. When she passed away this last October we were able to to quickly edit a memorial video for her funeral. People laughed and cried seeing her on video one last time.
From my own experience, I've come up with these 5 simple steps to help YOU record your family's history in less than an hour. Do it before it is too late.
1. Just Do It: 0 minutes
Every day counts - I don't mean to panic you but as my story above shows, a few days can make a big difference. Don't wait until you have the perfect camera, the perfect lighting, the perfect mood. Just start. If you're at Grandma's now and won't be back for 6 months, ask a neighbor for their video camera or buy an inexpensive Flip camcorder at your local electronics store. Trust me on this one: just do it. Tomorrow could be too late.
2. Prepare the interview: 5 minutes
Take a blank sheet of paper and (just) copy the following time line bullet points onto it while leaving some space between each point:
- birth (birth date, birthplace, names of parents, grandparents and siblings)
- childhood (schools, places lived, sports, memorable trips and events)
- education (high school, college, apprenticeship etc.)
- service (military service if applicable, rank, function, where stationed)
- marriage (how they met their spouse, courtship, wedding)
- family (births of children, places lived, places of worship, family trips)
- career (first job, promotions, companies, achievements)
- hobbies (crafts, sports, travel, art etc)
After you've copied down these points add in some family events or stories that you've always been curious about. What was Grandpa's first car? Where exactly did he serve in Korea? Did Uncle Alfred really join the circus when he was young?
3. Gather old photos and memorabilia: 10 minutes
Grab those photo albums or boxes of unsorted photos your interviewee has stashed away. Ask them to put the albums in order and start with the earliest one first. I know there are hundreds of photos in there, so ask your interviewee to talk about the most important ones. What is most important? Most probably photos with a lot of people on it or plainly those the feel they need to talk about most.
4. Set up the shoot: 5 minutes
If you can, shoot your interview in daylight. Pick a table close to a window. Have your family member sit facing towards the window. In addition, turn on the light in the room. Set the camera on a small tripod or on a stack of books. Make sure your family member is not too close and he/she is in focus. Record your subject for a couple of seconds - then check if you like the background, the lighting etc.
5. Tape the interview: 40 minutes or longer
Start your interview by asking your interviewee to state their full name, date and place of birth to warm them up. Then follow the time line you set up in step 2. As you cover each of the steps in their life, ask them to show you a couple of photos that belong to that time period. Let your family talk about a photo first, then, before progressing to the next photo, take the camcorder and film that photo with a steady hand (use both hands for stabilization).
Also: don't interrupt your interviewee to ask questions. Wait 1-2 seconds after they finish a sentence to then pose your next question. This makes it MUCH easier to edit the material afterwards.
Bonus tip: 6. Don't over-do it
Your (most likely) elderly family members are usually thrilled to tell their story but don't over do it in the first interview. Your subjects will tire out relatively quickly. Do a first 40 minute interview and then continue the next day. If you only have one day, consider breaking your interview into 2 to 3 sessions with a least an hour's break in between.
Do you have any tips to add? I'd love to hear how you've captured your family story and what you've learned. Just add a comment below.